1.There’s no love more intense than the love we have for our kids – and where there is intense love, there is also intense fear lurking beneath the surface.
2. The fastest way to break the cycle of perfectionism and become a fearless mother is to give up the idea of doing it perfectly – indeed to embrace uncertainty and imperfection.
3. We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes – understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.
4. Fearlessness is like a muscle. I know from my own life that the more I exercise it the more natural it becomes to not let my fears run me.
5. Not only is it harder to be a man, it is also harder to become one.
6. But you have to do what you dream of doing even while you’re afraid.
7. It would be futile to attempt to fit women into a masculine pattern of attitudes, skills and abilities and disastrous to force them to suppress their specifically female characteristics and abilities by keeping up the pretense that there are no differences between the sexes.
8. But, in fact, there is nothing that can bring you closer to fearlessness about everything else in the world than being a parent – because everyday fears – like not being approved of – pale by comparison to the fears you have about your children.
9. I’m pulling out, and I’m going to concentrate every ounce of time and energy over the next week working to defeat the recall because I realize now that’s the only way to defeat Arnold Schwarzenegger.
10. The more we refuse to buy into our inner critics – and our external ones too – the easier it will get to have confidence in our choices, and to feel comfortable with who we are – as women and as mothers.